Reading for Leading Archive

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    How to Turn an Adversary into an Ally

    I have been doing a lot of thinking about — and a considerable amount of coaching with — partners, or those I describe as “paired leaders.”  Their relationships range from manager-to-direct-report, to diagonal reports, to straight-up peers.  Most are “work spouses,” but I have also […]

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    Leading and Chaos

    On my way into a week of prayerful and blessed silence, I brought with me, Philando Castille, Alton Sterling and the Dallas Police Officers. In the middle of the retreat, I heard priests talking about “the horrible news out of Nice.” The day I came […]

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    Leading Towards Peace and Justice

    I am beginning a week’s silent spiritual retreat, so this will be short. In my native spiritual tongue, let me say that I will “pray” for you, and I ask you to pray for me. (If you’re more comfortable with “sending positive energy” that’s great, […]

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    5th of July – Let it Go. Let it Rip.

    If you find this back at your work station, welcome back.  Many of us, back from the sun (burn?), water, fireworks, beer and wine, family (maybe family stress ? 🙂 ), friends, kids, late nights, naps. Not an easy transition, so three short thoughts to […]

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    A Step-by-Step Process for When GRRRRR You’re Stuck

    (Note: RFL generally runs about a page. Today it’s about 2 pages; not as quick a read, as it required more explanation.  Next week, I expect to return to shorter pieces, but I hope you find value in this one.) Last week, I wrote about those […]

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  • WHITEMAN AIR FORCE BASE, Mo -- Senior Airman Eduardo Swizer, 509th Logistics Readiness Squadron vehicle mechanic, troubleshoots a wiring harness during a vehicle inspection, Nov. 2. The vehicle maintenance shop performs major maintenance to include transmissions overhauls, engines overhauls and power trains overhauls. (U.S. Air Force photo/Airman 1st Class Bryan Crane)(Released)

    Managing Those GRRRR Moments of Frustration – turning heat into light

    Please bring to mind one thing that’s been preoccupying you. For instance, I am beleaguered by thoughts about a syllabus I need to revise for Fall. It pops into my head, unbidden. It can tighten me up, or get me in its grip. I can plan […]

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    Pushback Management – Giving and Getting It

    Every parent’s nightmare:  It’s the Sunday before Christmas and you’re at the mall.  It’s 4:00 and you have to get two more gifts; you won’t have another chance with work deadlines, family coming in town, and a house that’s not ready. Your just-turned-three-year old, however, […]

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    What to Do When an Important Partnership is Getting Worse

    Note:  This article was originally published June 10, 2013 I’ve hit rocky patches with bosses, and when I was the boss, ran off the smooth road with business partners, friends — and even my bride/best friend.  In at least a few cases, we never recovered. In […]

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    What to do When You’re Dreading Something

    Note:  This was originally published on March 11, 2013 Friends, When I woke him up for the second time on Sunday morning, my beloved son had that 15 year old’s look of anxious dread, and he breathed the heavy sigh to confirm it. I stole […]

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    How (Some) Women Lead and What They Can Teach

    Note:  This was originally published on March 4, 2013 Friends, After a lunch on Friday, one of my students told her female classmate, and then told me, “You’re a pusher.” I’m not sure if today’s students understand that back in the day, a pusher, was […]

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