conflict Archive

  • complaining

    Converting Complaints to Positive Leadership

    Thank you to the 231 of you who weighed in on my survey on complaining last week! I am afraid I botched the design a little,* but the core data remains fascinating:  People who responded guesstimated that they complain between 14 and 18 times a […]

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  • leverage

    Gaining Leverage With Challenging “Allies”

    Although we battle with some adversaries, e.g., Obama v. Assad; most of our difficulties – truth be told are with allies, those in our tent: Boehner with the Tea Party, mom with dad, CEO with COO, boss with worker. We forget that we’re on the […]

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  • 12angrymen

    When an Important Partnership is Strained – Part Two

    Last week I suggested that the best way to renew a strained partnership is to work on yourself. I suggested I must lead with my best self to begin with the assumption that I have done something to contribute to stress or a breakdown.  It takes […]

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  • the rope

    The Rope Trick – How to avoid getting let down

      Friends, I recommend you watch today’s RFL, which I shared on Maria Shriver’s website last week.*   I realize that many read RFL at work and may not be able to watch video, so below is a written piece which parallels the points in the […]

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  • u turn

    What Happens When Somebody Attacks You

    [audio:]   Friends, I have one story I’ll frame with three questions.  If you feel like it, comment on them when you’re finished reading. 1.   How important for everyday leadership at home and work is the phenomenon I will discuss? 2.   What’s your experience been? […]

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  • arm wrestle

    The Irony of Adversaries – Part 2 on the best self

    Friends, Last week I wrote about the need we all have as leaders to become aware of our judgments of others – our mental whipping boys. My point was to develop the skill of stepping outside your judgments and strong opinions and to see yourself […]

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  • Authority and Conflict Resolution

    Authority and Conflict Resolution

    In the final segment of the show, Dan talks with two callers on how they solve common problems in their lives. Dan talks with a local nurse and teacher about different authority roles can affect how a conflict is solved.

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  • Men and Women Problem Solving

    Men and Women Problem Solving

    In this segment Dan talks about the different conflict-resolution styles of men and women.

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  • Conflict: A Learning Experience

    Conflict: A Learning Experience

    In the second segment Dan continues to talk about how conflict should be viewed as a win-win situation,

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  • Lessons on Conflict

    Lessons on Conflict

    In the beginning of the second hour, Dan talks about the possible lessons that arise out of conflict and a new approach to viewing a “bad” situation.

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