family leadership Archive

  • Who’s Got Your Back?

    The Irish priests in Boston know their politics. Still, Fr. McInnes’ prescience and sophistication jolted me.  During our marriage preparation, he knew full well the aspirations I was packing up for my trip from the ideals of Harvard’s halls to the political streets where I […]

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  • Leaders Clear the Air – Part 3 of 3

    Recap of the last two weeks:  This series is about how to clear the air with an important work or home partner. Part One spoke to the importance of standing up for yourself when a partner has hurt the relationship, but also recognizing that it […]

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  • Leaders Clear the Air – first in a series

      Today a combined Reading for Leading and LeadingX2 (leading by two).    I will keep this reasonably short by introducing a topic, two steps, and then continuing next week. In any strong partnership there come times when you need to “clear the air.”  Your […]

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  • Curbing the Curse of Conflict – Part Two

    This is part 2 of 3 in thinking about one of – if not the greatest energy-sucks in organizational and family life:  Conflict. Last week, I suggested a three-part foundation (if you missed last week’s RFL, the three parts are described in a little more […]

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  • How You Can Get a Handle on the Costly Curse of Conflict

    We were seven kids in a pretty healthy family.  Seven kids in a 3-bedroom ranch. Oh, and seven 7 kids in our one Ford Country Squire. Picture the 9 of us, sardine chldren: We were a daily and nightly laboratory of conflict. My memory is […]

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  • What Would You Tattoo . . . On Your Heart

    Perhaps you have read of Fr. Gregory Boyle, S.J.  Boyle has been working (LEADING!) in Los Angeles for thirty years, dedicated to Homeboy Industries, “the largest gang intervention, rehabilitation and re-entry program in the world.” In his two books, he frequently introduces the “homies” (as […]

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  • Abuse Authority Leadership – Us

    Two stories this week scream to those in authority and to those without authority- and I would guess that we are all both. In different contexts, we are with and without authority.  The stories confront us with the worst of human nature and of the […]

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  • Men Leading Men

    An old friend and I were sharing with each other some of what we are grateful for. It’s a wonderful practice I’ve been sharing with anyone who will participate with me. He said: “I’m grateful that in my 15 years of teaching I did nothing […]

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  • SEX abuse and leadership – observations and a plea

    With the Cosby, Trump, Franken, Moore, Louis CK, Weinstein, Ailes, Conyers, Rose…outrages alive and festering, all of us in families and other organizations have a chance to learn and do better.  The lessons pertain to sex, power and yet go beyond these.  For reflection: Power […]

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  • Mending Division in Your Leadership World

    Read if there is division in your world.  If not, skip it. Two stories. 4 points of view. Please see if you can withhold judgment. Story 1. A dear mentee and friend.  He’d spent more than a handful of years in prison for a crime […]

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