family leadership Archive

  • Why You Need to Befriend Angie

    If you don’t befriend Angie, she can wreck you.  And worse, she can cause you to wreck those around you. But, first you have to realize she is part of your organization.  It took me many years to bring Angie into the light, and I’m […]

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  • Dan, You Ignorant . . . Leader

    The laughter surprised me.  I felt a surge of indignation, but just as quickly it was gone. Because, I realized that I didn’t understand their response of laughter. . . because they hadn’t understood the point I was making.  You might catch the irony by […]

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  • How You Can Be More Authentic

    Last week, I posited that you and I have the ability and choice to be more or less authentic.  Occasionally, we consciously decide how much or how little of our “real” selves we will show.  But in nearly every relationship and even every encounter, we unconsciously […]

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  • The Subordinate Partner Speaks Out on Partnership

    This belongs to the general series on the incredible power of partnership — of “paired leadership.”  And this is the last for now in the mini-series on “leading a subordinate to partnership.” The first 4 are all available at www.danmulhern.com/category/reading-for-leading.  I have been writing about […]

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  • How to Lead a Subordinate to Become a Partner – Part 4 (last)

    This is a continuing series on “paired leadership” generally, and the last of 4 on creating a partnership with one who is subordinate to you.  My launching point for this series has been how, for well over a decade, my oldest daughter and I were […]

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  • How to Lead a Subordinate to Become a Partner – Part 3

    In a continuing series on the power of creating partnerships – including with those who are “below” us. Recap:  For the past two weeks I have been writing about how it’s possible to turn (nearly every) top-down relationship into a partnership, and that doing so […]

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  • How to Lead a Subordinate to Become a Partner – Part 2

    Paired Leadership — 3rd in a series —  This series is written for people who can imagine that creating a PARTNERSHIP with a key report (or child or student) might generate much better results and much more satisfying relationships than “managing down.”   What I call […]

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  • How to Lead a Subordinate to Become a Partner – Part 1

    Continuing thoughts on “paired leadership” – 2nd in an ongoing series. As I wrote last week, in some key paired leadership situations there are pure equals, like spouses and co-founders.  But sometimes your paired leader or partner is “beneath” you in the hierarchy.  You are […]

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  • The Rewarding Discipline of Positive Leadership

    “Doesn’t being so positive with people end up meaning that you’re denying reality?”   I was asked this at a Women’s Executive Leadership program at the Haas Business School at Berkeley last week.  She was responding to my challenge: great relationships tilt heavily positive, so […]

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  • 5 Ways to Lead Down the Stretch

    Now we head down the stretch with that strange admixture of tugs and pulls: Thanksgiving, Advent, collecting from clients, Hanukkah, year-end reviews, New Year’s, bonuses, gift-giving, planning for 2017, and . . . shopping. Let me add one more strange pairing and that is leadership […]

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