family leadership Archive

  • Leaders Clear the Air – first in a series

      Today a combined Reading for Leading and LeadingX2 (leading by two).    I will keep this reasonably short by introducing a topic, two steps, and then continuing next week. In any strong partnership there come times when you need to “clear the air.”  Your […]

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  • Curbing the Curse of Conflict – Part Two

    This is part 2 of 3 in thinking about one of – if not the greatest energy-sucks in organizational and family life:  Conflict. Last week, I suggested a three-part foundation (if you missed last week’s RFL, the three parts are described in a little more […]

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  • How You Can Get a Handle on the Costly Curse of Conflict

    We were seven kids in a pretty healthy family.  Seven kids in a 3-bedroom ranch. Oh, and seven 7 kids in our one Ford Country Squire. Picture the 9 of us, sardine chldren: We were a daily and nightly laboratory of conflict. My memory is […]

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  • What Would You Tattoo . . . On Your Heart

    Perhaps you have read of Fr. Gregory Boyle, S.J.  Boyle has been working (LEADING!) in Los Angeles for thirty years, dedicated to Homeboy Industries, “the largest gang intervention, rehabilitation and re-entry program in the world.” In his two books, he frequently introduces the “homies” (as […]

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  • Abuse Authority Leadership – Us

    Two stories this week scream to those in authority and to those without authority- and I would guess that we are all both. In different contexts, we are with and without authority.  The stories confront us with the worst of human nature and of the […]

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  • Men Leading Men

    An old friend and I were sharing with each other some of what we are grateful for. It’s a wonderful practice I’ve been sharing with anyone who will participate with me. He said: “I’m grateful that in my 15 years of teaching I did nothing […]

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  • SEX abuse and leadership – observations and a plea

    With the Cosby, Trump, Franken, Moore, Louis CK, Weinstein, Ailes, Conyers, Rose…outrages alive and festering, all of us in families and other organizations have a chance to learn and do better.  The lessons pertain to sex, power and yet go beyond these.  For reflection: Power […]

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  • Mending Division in Your Leadership World

    Read if there is division in your world.  If not, skip it. Two stories. 4 points of view. Please see if you can withhold judgment. Story 1. A dear mentee and friend.  He’d spent more than a handful of years in prison for a crime […]

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  • Using Your Unused Capacity As Boss

    Everyday Leadership means you don’t need no stinkin’ boss to tell you what to do. You have your own value and values, your own initiative and instincts. Sure, the boss is “above” you, but they may not be smarter, kinder, or more effective. And even […]

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  • How Mary Z Shows Lesson One in LeadingX2

    I’ll be writing more these days about the atomic unit upon which all leadership is built – what I’m calling LeadingX2 or leading by 2.  I am referring to the way in which you can lead and be led by one other person.  The other […]

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