family leadership Archive

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    Why We’re Scared to Lead

    I think she almost laughed at me. Kind of blurted an involuntary guffaw. But then my Teaching Assistant followed up her involuntary non-verbal display with sincere verbal reassurance. We were recapping the last 3 classes, all of which were led by students themselves. We were […]

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    Improv Your Way to Being a Winner-Leader

    There’s a wonderful movie out called Don’t Think Twice. It’s directly about Improv  — so enjoy some very funny scenes. Yet it moves beyond Improv to Improv’s relationship with mainstream “show business.”  And, as Keegan-Michael Key shared with Stephen Colbert it actually moves well beyond that […]

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    Don’t Be a Leader in a Bubble

    As we swim in the national soup of a presidential campaign, the best learning about leadership lies outside the usual back-and-forth.  Whether we are leading in an office or company, a school or family, a church or neighborhood, we have to grapple with IMPRESSIONS and […]

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  • Mobius Adversary Ally

    How to Turn an Adversary into an Ally

    I have been doing a lot of thinking about — and a considerable amount of coaching with — partners, or those I describe as “paired leaders.”  Their relationships range from manager-to-direct-report, to diagonal reports, to straight-up peers.  Most are “work spouses,” but I have also […]

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    Pushback Management – Giving and Getting It

    Every parent’s nightmare:  It’s the Sunday before Christmas and you’re at the mall.  It’s 4:00 and you have to get two more gifts; you won’t have another chance with work deadlines, family coming in town, and a house that’s not ready. Your just-turned-three-year old, however, […]

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    My Son, My Fear, My Friend

      Friends, Almost every leader’s biggest challenge is unleashing initiative.  If it’s not getting people to initiate and generate, then it’s getting people to initiate work with others.  Parents, bosses, presidents, principals? They’re all trying to light fires and increase people’s capacity to work together […]

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    It’s a Public Good – Take As Much of it as You Want

    Ivana, a former law student of mine, gave me this week’s “Reading for Leading story,” while we were having a drink to celebrate numerous goals that she had recently completed. She told me how another student approached her and asked why she always has a […]

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    What They Forgot to Tell Bosses but Bosses Need to Know

    I led a workshop last week in San Francisco for the Institute for Management Studies, and I was reminded again about how bosses can make their people miserable. This is about how not to do that! Among the 40 or so participants there were about six […]

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  • Pain Pushes Until Vision Pulls

    Celebrating an Incredible Everyday Leader

    If you think about your own leadership — the passion you have for something important — I wonder if you might find this line from author and minister Michael Beckwith rings true:  “Pain pushes until vision pulls.”  I know from my own life that my […]

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    What You Don’t Know CAN Hurt You – So here’s how to find out

    At Berkeley, as on so many campuses, and in offices, in the NFL, in churches, we’ve been struggling with disturbing cases of sexual harassment. As with the Black Lives Matter case, we’re confronted with damning evidence that just had not been fully seen, accepted and […]

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