Comments on: Managing the Pain and Stress of Leading http://www.danmulhern.com/wordpress/2007/03/managing-the-pain-and-stress-of-leading/ A weekly stimulant for those who lead Thu, 04 Dec 2008 05:55:22 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.5 by: Ways To Incorporate http://www.danmulhern.com/wordpress/2007/03/managing-the-pain-and-stress-of-leading/#comment-27872 Mon, 04 Feb 2008 12:10:13 +0000 http://www.danmulhern.com/wordpress/2007/03/managing-the-pain-and-stress-of-leading/#comment-27872 <strong>How to Incorporate the Latest Design Trends into Your Kitchen Cabinet Refacing Project...</strong> You can update your kitchen by incorporating new kitchen design trends by refacing your existing kitchen cabinets. You may want to do update your kitchen because prospective buyers will be willing to pay more for an attractive, functional modern kitche... How to Incorporate the Latest Design Trends into Your Kitchen Cabinet Refacing Project…

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]]> by: Byron http://www.danmulhern.com/wordpress/2007/03/managing-the-pain-and-stress-of-leading/#comment-605 Fri, 16 Mar 2007 16:05:20 +0000 http://www.danmulhern.com/wordpress/2007/03/managing-the-pain-and-stress-of-leading/#comment-605 What a great subject! I think of the news item I heard about how Michigan's elected public officials don't have to disclose their private financial interests, though most states require this. And the response from a certain official that they had a right to privacy and that it would deter successful people from seeking to serve. Once we become leaders, we are public and we might have to be caught flicking the squirrel away. We DO become public even when we serve even if we are not elected. And if we are truly successful, we should have an open book on that success. It isn't a trade secret - and that's what I like about your column. You share the wealth. Thanks! What a great subject! I think of the news item I heard about how Michigan’s elected public officials don’t have to disclose their private financial interests, though most states require this. And the response from a certain official that they had a right to privacy and that it would deter successful people from seeking to serve. Once we become leaders, we are public and we might have to be caught flicking the squirrel away. We DO become public even when we serve even if we are not elected. And if we are truly successful, we should have an open book on that success. It isn’t a trade secret - and that’s what I like about your column. You share the wealth. Thanks!

]]> by: Chris Laverty http://www.danmulhern.com/wordpress/2007/03/managing-the-pain-and-stress-of-leading/#comment-600 Fri, 16 Mar 2007 12:32:02 +0000 http://www.danmulhern.com/wordpress/2007/03/managing-the-pain-and-stress-of-leading/#comment-600 Dan, This week's message was very relevant and helpful for me. I have learned alot from your newsletters and just as much from watching people like Governor Granholm and how she skillfully deals with the ever present resistance, controversy, and criticism. As Chair of the Board of Trustees at LCC I have been through quite a bit. Someone told me a while ago that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. That has helped to deal with the stress, too. Thanks for everything you do. Dan,

This week’s message was very relevant and helpful for me. I have learned alot from your newsletters and just as much from watching people like Governor Granholm and how she skillfully deals with the ever present resistance, controversy, and criticism.

As Chair of the Board of Trustees at LCC I have been through quite a bit. Someone told me a while ago that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. That has helped to deal with the stress, too.

Thanks for everything you do.

]]> by: Steve Makovec http://www.danmulhern.com/wordpress/2007/03/managing-the-pain-and-stress-of-leading/#comment-563 Tue, 13 Mar 2007 17:39:43 +0000 http://www.danmulhern.com/wordpress/2007/03/managing-the-pain-and-stress-of-leading/#comment-563 Dan, the pain and stress of leading in a visible role are real; thank you for documenting them. And as you indicate, those pressures are amplified by the way that leaders are viewed and exposed in nearly every manner imaginable. The words of a visible leader are repeated [some in a different context], dissected, and critiqued from all angles. Worse, virtually every action of a visible leader affords a camera angle as your dream imagined. Leaders are incredibly vulnerable in that context, and must be prepared for that reality. As you noted, leaders who are most successful in coping with these realities do so with a good advisor / sounding board. I also see in the best a well-balanced ego, an easy-going personality and incredible personal integrity and discipline. That combination reduces the number of gaffes committed and improves recovery from those that inevitably occur. Dan, the pain and stress of leading in a visible role are real; thank you for documenting them. And as you indicate, those pressures are amplified by the way that leaders are viewed and exposed in nearly every manner imaginable.

The words of a visible leader are repeated [some in a different context], dissected, and critiqued from all angles. Worse, virtually every action of a visible leader affords a camera angle as your dream imagined. Leaders are incredibly vulnerable in that context, and must be prepared for that reality.

As you noted, leaders who are most successful in coping with these realities do so with a good advisor / sounding board. I also see in the best a well-balanced ego, an easy-going personality and incredible personal integrity and discipline. That combination reduces the number of gaffes committed and improves recovery from those that inevitably occur.

]]> by: John Trammel http://www.danmulhern.com/wordpress/2007/03/managing-the-pain-and-stress-of-leading/#comment-554 Tue, 13 Mar 2007 00:54:00 +0000 http://www.danmulhern.com/wordpress/2007/03/managing-the-pain-and-stress-of-leading/#comment-554 Hi Dan, Congratulations for the success that you're having with your book. I'm sure that this is just the beginning. STRESS; Hans Salyea defines stress as "an unspecified demand made on both the mind and body because the response includes both." James Allen describes man "as a progressive and evolving being, man is where he is so that he may learn that he may grow; as he learns the spiritual lesson which any circumstance contains for him, it passes away and gives place to other circumstances. "That circumstances grow out of thought, every man knows who has for any length of time practiced self-control and self-purification, for he will have notices that the alteration in his circumstances is in exact ratio with his own mental condition. So true is this, that when a man earnestly applies himself to remedy the defects in his character, and makes swift and marked progress, as he passes rapidly through a succession of visissitudes." Mother Teresa says "LIFE IS": Opportunity, Benefit from it; Beauty, Admire it; A Dream,Realize it; A Challenge, Meet it; A Duty, Complete it; A Game, Play it; A Promise, Fulfill it; Sorrow, Overcome it; A Song, Sing it; A Struggle,Accept it; A Tragedy, Confront it; An Adventure, Dare it; Luck, make it; Life is Life, Fight for it. Hi Dan,
Congratulations for the success that you’re having with your book. I’m sure that this is just the beginning.
STRESS; Hans Salyea defines stress as “an unspecified demand made on both the mind and body because the response includes both.” James Allen describes man “as a progressive and evolving being, man is where he is so that he may learn that he may grow; as he learns the spiritual lesson which any circumstance contains for him, it passes away and gives place to other circumstances.

“That circumstances grow out of thought, every man knows who has for any length of time practiced self-control and self-purification, for he will have notices that the alteration in his circumstances is in exact ratio with his own mental condition. So true is this, that when a man earnestly applies himself to remedy the defects in his character, and makes swift and marked progress, as he passes rapidly through a succession of visissitudes.”

Mother Teresa says “LIFE IS”: Opportunity, Benefit from it;
Beauty, Admire it; A Dream,Realize it; A Challenge, Meet it;
A Duty, Complete it; A Game, Play it; A Promise, Fulfill it;
Sorrow, Overcome it; A Song, Sing it; A Struggle,Accept it;
A Tragedy, Confront it; An Adventure, Dare it; Luck, make it; Life is Life, Fight for it.

]]> by: Tiffany http://www.danmulhern.com/wordpress/2007/03/managing-the-pain-and-stress-of-leading/#comment-553 Tue, 13 Mar 2007 00:26:25 +0000 http://www.danmulhern.com/wordpress/2007/03/managing-the-pain-and-stress-of-leading/#comment-553 that story at the beginning made me laugh so hard!!! What a great way to start the day off! Congrats on how well your new book is doing! that story at the beginning made me laugh so hard!!! What a great way to start the day off! Congrats on how well your new book is doing!

]]> by: Victor Granholm http://www.danmulhern.com/wordpress/2007/03/managing-the-pain-and-stress-of-leading/#comment-550 Mon, 12 Mar 2007 20:53:31 +0000 http://www.danmulhern.com/wordpress/2007/03/managing-the-pain-and-stress-of-leading/#comment-550 Hi Dan, I have statred reading your book. I like the way your healthcare client discovered that presenting the company's vision was not enough, even when modified to accomodate employee suggestions. There is a need to incorporate the employees vision as well. I had not thought of that .... too bad. Vic P.S. I'm enjoying it very much. Glad to hear sales are doing well. Hi Dan,
I have statred reading your book. I like the way your healthcare client discovered that presenting the company’s vision was not enough, even when modified to accomodate employee suggestions. There is a need to incorporate the employees vision as well. I had not thought of that …. too bad.
Vic

P.S. I’m enjoying it very much. Glad to hear sales are doing well.

]]> by: dan http://www.danmulhern.com/wordpress/2007/03/managing-the-pain-and-stress-of-leading/#comment-548 Mon, 12 Mar 2007 17:39:00 +0000 http://www.danmulhern.com/wordpress/2007/03/managing-the-pain-and-stress-of-leading/#comment-548 Cindy, Thanks for your note. Your comment about Big Brother made me think of the famous Pogo cartoon: we have met the enemy and it is us! Dan Cindy,
Thanks for your note. Your comment about Big Brother made me think of the famous Pogo cartoon: we have met the enemy and it is us!
Dan

]]> by: Cynthia Agle http://www.danmulhern.com/wordpress/2007/03/managing-the-pain-and-stress-of-leading/#comment-547 Mon, 12 Mar 2007 17:32:13 +0000 http://www.danmulhern.com/wordpress/2007/03/managing-the-pain-and-stress-of-leading/#comment-547 congratulations on the success of the book!! It is enjoyable to read your newsletter and interesting to realize that you have discovered that dreams can have a profound message for our waking state. With the camera phones and reality internet sites it seems that privacy may not be available to any of us anymore. Perhaps "Big Brother" is here and in an unsuspected form of our own making. Thanks, Cindy congratulations on the success of the book!! It is enjoyable to read your newsletter and interesting to realize that you have discovered that dreams can have a profound message for our waking state. With the camera phones and reality internet sites it seems that privacy may not be available to any of us anymore. Perhaps “Big Brother” is here and in an unsuspected form of our own making.
Thanks,
Cindy

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