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		<title>by: Evaine</title>
		<link>http://www.danmulhern.com/wordpress/2008/01/getting-outside-your-comfort/#comment-37678</link>
		<pubDate>Thu, 10 Apr 2008 14:32:02 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>Good post. You make some great points that most people do not fully understand.

"Barack and Hillary have walked a trail blazed by Shirley Chisholm, Reverends Jackson and Sharpton, Alan Keyes, and Pat Schroeder. This time a woman and an African American are on the center of that well-worn trail and one is going to be nominated for President of the United States. How cool is that? What a milestone for our country. I don’t think this moment would have come so soon (granted it’s 220 years since the Constitution’s passage) had it not been for Dr. King’s leadership in throwing open the doors to equal opportunity. Although he led for African Americans, he and those who marched along side him opened doors for everyone."

I like how you explained that. Very helpful. Thanks.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Good post. You make some great points that most people do not fully understand.</p>
<p>&#8220;Barack and Hillary have walked a trail blazed by Shirley Chisholm, Reverends Jackson and Sharpton, Alan Keyes, and Pat Schroeder. This time a woman and an African American are on the center of that well-worn trail and one is going to be nominated for President of the United States. How cool is that? What a milestone for our country. I don’t think this moment would have come so soon (granted it’s 220 years since the Constitution’s passage) had it not been for Dr. King’s leadership in throwing open the doors to equal opportunity. Although he led for African Americans, he and those who marched along side him opened doors for everyone.&#8221;</p>
<p>I like how you explained that. Very helpful. Thanks.
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		<title>by: Chris Theule-VanDam</title>
		<link>http://www.danmulhern.com/wordpress/2008/01/getting-outside-your-comfort/#comment-27380</link>
		<pubDate>Wed, 30 Jan 2008 17:57:51 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>Dan - thanks for the email.
In the past 3 weeks I've been able to visit The King Center in Atlanta and also the Civil Rights Museum in Memphis along with listening to MLK's autobiagraphy (8 cd's - it's long and very good).  

Your comments brought up two thoughts to me - going to where "others" are is very incarnational.  It's the approach we take with kids in Young Life.  We go to kids first, and enter their world - often times being the only adult among the kids.  This practice comes straight from Jesus - who came to us.

Second, I love the quote from James Newman - who was the person that came up with the idea of the "comfort zone" - in his book, Release Your Brakes, "Adventure is the dilberate volitional movement out of your comfort zone."  

Thanks again for your thoughts.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Dan - thanks for the email.<br />
In the past 3 weeks I&#8217;ve been able to visit The King Center in Atlanta and also the Civil Rights Museum in Memphis along with listening to MLK&#8217;s autobiagraphy (8 cd&#8217;s - it&#8217;s long and very good).  </p>
<p>Your comments brought up two thoughts to me - going to where &#8220;others&#8221; are is very incarnational.  It&#8217;s the approach we take with kids in Young Life.  We go to kids first, and enter their world - often times being the only adult among the kids.  This practice comes straight from Jesus - who came to us.</p>
<p>Second, I love the quote from James Newman - who was the person that came up with the idea of the &#8220;comfort zone&#8221; - in his book, Release Your Brakes, &#8220;Adventure is the dilberate volitional movement out of your comfort zone.&#8221;  </p>
<p>Thanks again for your thoughts.
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		<title>by: Angela</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 24 Jan 2008 05:45:04 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>How appropriate to read your inspirational message as I, and my family, sit half way around the world in South Korea. Here, we truly are in the minority and have the opportunity to experience and learn. Thanks, once again, for your timely message.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>How appropriate to read your inspirational message as I, and my family, sit half way around the world in South Korea. Here, we truly are in the minority and have the opportunity to experience and learn. Thanks, once again, for your timely message.
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		<title>by: Leaders Apprentice</title>
		<link>http://www.danmulhern.com/wordpress/2008/01/getting-outside-your-comfort/#comment-26711</link>
		<pubDate>Thu, 24 Jan 2008 04:26:16 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>This is a refreshing look with an insightful perspective. Life, society and cultural are changing at an ever increasing rate. It is good to take stock and be prepared to embrace the future changes that will inevitably come</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>This is a refreshing look with an insightful perspective. Life, society and cultural are changing at an ever increasing rate. It is good to take stock and be prepared to embrace the future changes that will inevitably come
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		<title>by: Gilda</title>
		<link>http://www.danmulhern.com/wordpress/2008/01/getting-outside-your-comfort/#comment-26613</link>
		<pubDate>Wed, 23 Jan 2008 03:43:51 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>I would strongly urge you to watch the film "Iron Jawed Angels" if you think that women fought for their rights without generally encountering public violence.  Also, the glass ceiling shows that women continue to encounter resistance when trying to rise to top level positions. Sometimes the backstabbing is worse than public confrontation since it's harder to fight stealth enemies. Otherwise, I like the perspectives you introduce in this week's column. As usual, you provide thought provoking insights.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I would strongly urge you to watch the film &#8220;Iron Jawed Angels&#8221; if you think that women fought for their rights without generally encountering public violence.  Also, the glass ceiling shows that women continue to encounter resistance when trying to rise to top level positions. Sometimes the backstabbing is worse than public confrontation since it&#8217;s harder to fight stealth enemies. Otherwise, I like the perspectives you introduce in this week&#8217;s column. As usual, you provide thought provoking insights.
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		<title>by: Jerry Bayer</title>
		<link>http://www.danmulhern.com/wordpress/2008/01/getting-outside-your-comfort/#comment-26552</link>
		<pubDate>Tue, 22 Jan 2008 13:01:59 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>Just thought I would add the name of Geraldine Ferraro to the list of political trail blazers, nominated by Walter Mondale as his Vice Presidential candidate in 1984. As I recall, it was a huge deal.

Thanks for your insights!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Just thought I would add the name of Geraldine Ferraro to the list of political trail blazers, nominated by Walter Mondale as his Vice Presidential candidate in 1984. As I recall, it was a huge deal.</p>
<p>Thanks for your insights!
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		<title>by: Anonymous</title>
		<link>http://www.danmulhern.com/wordpress/2008/01/getting-outside-your-comfort/#comment-26514</link>
		<pubDate>Tue, 22 Jan 2008 00:06:50 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>When I become discouraged with progress in many arenas, I look at my two sons who are very nurturing with their children. I also look at the acceptance of a gay couple that live in our complex and who add so much to our lives with their interest in gardening, cooking, and home decorating. Slowly we are becoming a better society. 

Doreen</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>When I become discouraged with progress in many arenas, I look at my two sons who are very nurturing with their children. I also look at the acceptance of a gay couple that live in our complex and who add so much to our lives with their interest in gardening, cooking, and home decorating. Slowly we are becoming a better society. </p>
<p>Doreen
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		<title>by: LaDonna Mask</title>
		<link>http://www.danmulhern.com/wordpress/2008/01/getting-outside-your-comfort/#comment-26499</link>
		<pubDate>Mon, 21 Jan 2008 20:41:29 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>Thank you for your comments.  As an African American educator, I have often had the experience of being the only African American present, in classrooms, at workshops, etc.  I once had a colleague (white) say to me that her child was the only white student in the class. i must admit that I had little sympathy for her.  It is important that as we educate, lead and participate that we remember to be sensitive to the cultural, socio-economic, religous experiences and traditions of others.  Rather than uphold the melting pot (where all conform to one ideal), we must move towards the salad bowl whrere all are appreciated for who they are, where they come from and what they bring to the table.  Be blessed on a day such as today!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Thank you for your comments.  As an African American educator, I have often had the experience of being the only African American present, in classrooms, at workshops, etc.  I once had a colleague (white) say to me that her child was the only white student in the class. i must admit that I had little sympathy for her.  It is important that as we educate, lead and participate that we remember to be sensitive to the cultural, socio-economic, religous experiences and traditions of others.  Rather than uphold the melting pot (where all conform to one ideal), we must move towards the salad bowl whrere all are appreciated for who they are, where they come from and what they bring to the table.  Be blessed on a day such as today!
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		<title>by: Mike O'Neill</title>
		<link>http://www.danmulhern.com/wordpress/2008/01/getting-outside-your-comfort/#comment-26489</link>
		<pubDate>Mon, 21 Jan 2008 19:08:36 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>As a young man of rebellious inclination, a teen actually, I once found myself without a place to call home.  A co-worker where I was working after school offered me shelter with his family.  In my recollection, he made the offer without limitation.  He just said something like, “Come stay with us if you need.”  Obadiah Perkins was just “Obie” to me.  That night I learned he was married, had children, was a former Marine, and had a lumpy couch.  I don’t think I ever slept better.

Obadiah was African-American though then, 1962, we had hardly begun to shift from “Colored” to “Black.”  Dr. King had not yet made his Dream speech.  I have wondered since then if Obie had a “dream.”  I think he started one in me.  

I didn’t stay long, but it was a long time until I found my home again.  When I think of “home,” I hope I will always be able to say, “Come stay with us if you need.”

Thanks, Dan, for the reminder.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>As a young man of rebellious inclination, a teen actually, I once found myself without a place to call home.  A co-worker where I was working after school offered me shelter with his family.  In my recollection, he made the offer without limitation.  He just said something like, “Come stay with us if you need.”  Obadiah Perkins was just “Obie” to me.  That night I learned he was married, had children, was a former Marine, and had a lumpy couch.  I don’t think I ever slept better.</p>
<p>Obadiah was African-American though then, 1962, we had hardly begun to shift from “Colored” to “Black.”  Dr. King had not yet made his Dream speech.  I have wondered since then if Obie had a “dream.”  I think he started one in me.  </p>
<p>I didn’t stay long, but it was a long time until I found my home again.  When I think of “home,” I hope I will always be able to say, “Come stay with us if you need.”</p>
<p>Thanks, Dan, for the reminder.
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		<title>by: Tressa Duncan</title>
		<link>http://www.danmulhern.com/wordpress/2008/01/getting-outside-your-comfort/#comment-26477</link>
		<pubDate>Mon, 21 Jan 2008 17:33:17 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>Today I will live life differently because of what you've said.

Thanks for a fresh perspective.

Tressa.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Today I will live life differently because of what you&#8217;ve said.</p>
<p>Thanks for a fresh perspective.</p>
<p>Tressa.
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		<title>by: Anonymous</title>
		<link>http://www.danmulhern.com/wordpress/2008/01/getting-outside-your-comfort/#comment-26475</link>
		<pubDate>Mon, 21 Jan 2008 17:26:42 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>Dan, you are inspired today!

All of the previous comments show what authentic, good-heated and THINKING people are reading and responding to your newsletter. In many of my past leadership roles I have been the lone woman in the room, at the board meeting, etc. and so am able to talk in "shorthand" with other women in such roles about the many ways,(suble and not-so-subtle) things are "different" for them. (And, that more often than not, men are not even aware of.)

I too am thrilled that wa are finally this close to having either an african-american or a woman as president.  They represent great hope and powerful change for our country.
To all readers: keep thinking, praying, hoping.  Let's keep that dream alive!

Best,
Lisa Pasbjerg, DCSW
CEO/FOCUSED COACHING</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Dan, you are inspired today!</p>
<p>All of the previous comments show what authentic, good-heated and THINKING people are reading and responding to your newsletter. In many of my past leadership roles I have been the lone woman in the room, at the board meeting, etc. and so am able to talk in &#8220;shorthand&#8221; with other women in such roles about the many ways,(suble and not-so-subtle) things are &#8220;different&#8221; for them. (And, that more often than not, men are not even aware of.)</p>
<p>I too am thrilled that wa are finally this close to having either an african-american or a woman as president.  They represent great hope and powerful change for our country.<br />
To all readers: keep thinking, praying, hoping.  Let&#8217;s keep that dream alive!</p>
<p>Best,<br />
Lisa Pasbjerg, DCSW<br />
CEO/FOCUSED COACHING
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		<title>by: Tarianne DeYonker, OP</title>
		<link>http://www.danmulhern.com/wordpress/2008/01/getting-outside-your-comfort/#comment-26466</link>
		<pubDate>Mon, 21 Jan 2008 15:34:56 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>Dan,

Thanks for opening the page wider and making some connections. Our life together in North America has been quite narrow, in spite of all the opportunities we've had to expand our circles.

May your call for stretching our tents touch our hearts and move us into action. That way, the future will be different!

Tarianne</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Dan,</p>
<p>Thanks for opening the page wider and making some connections. Our life together in North America has been quite narrow, in spite of all the opportunities we&#8217;ve had to expand our circles.</p>
<p>May your call for stretching our tents touch our hearts and move us into action. That way, the future will be different!</p>
<p>Tarianne
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		<title>by: Gloria Combe</title>
		<link>http://www.danmulhern.com/wordpress/2008/01/getting-outside-your-comfort/#comment-26465</link>
		<pubDate>Mon, 21 Jan 2008 15:33:44 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>From time to time I'm the only white woman in the room and I often think if my colleagues would be here they would understand middle class values unite most of us, whether we're black or white. Sad that suburbanites essentially have their view of the black community on the 11:00 p.m. news.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>From time to time I&#8217;m the only white woman in the room and I often think if my colleagues would be here they would understand middle class values unite most of us, whether we&#8217;re black or white. Sad that suburbanites essentially have their view of the black community on the 11:00 p.m. news.
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		<title>by: Renee Deroche</title>
		<link>http://www.danmulhern.com/wordpress/2008/01/getting-outside-your-comfort/#comment-26463</link>
		<pubDate>Mon, 21 Jan 2008 14:57:57 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>Dan,

You bring a breath of refreshing air each Monday morning to my U.P. world ... and speaking as a Native born Detroiter that means alot! I am aware each and every day of our differences, and work to overcome innate prejudices in my daily life. Gender bias, racism, religious differences, fat bias, and the common denomimator of wealth (or should I say, lack thereof?) as I work with the poor through St. Vincent de Paul. I love your weekly positive messages, and today I felt motivated enought to click on your link and order your book as you challenge so many of us ... to lead with our best selves!

Thank you!

Renee Deroche</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Dan,</p>
<p>You bring a breath of refreshing air each Monday morning to my U.P. world &#8230; and speaking as a Native born Detroiter that means alot! I am aware each and every day of our differences, and work to overcome innate prejudices in my daily life. Gender bias, racism, religious differences, fat bias, and the common denomimator of wealth (or should I say, lack thereof?) as I work with the poor through St. Vincent de Paul. I love your weekly positive messages, and today I felt motivated enought to click on your link and order your book as you challenge so many of us &#8230; to lead with our best selves!</p>
<p>Thank you!</p>
<p>Renee Deroche
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		<title>by: TL Michael Auman</title>
		<link>http://www.danmulhern.com/wordpress/2008/01/getting-outside-your-comfort/#comment-26461</link>
		<pubDate>Mon, 21 Jan 2008 14:31:43 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>Thanks for your message today (and always).

As a gay man, I would only add to your reflection that if Martin Luther King were still alive, I believe he would be preaching the same message in regard to our society's attitude's towards my community. I would suggest that prejudice against gay and lesbian persons continues to be an acceptable position. 

Given the times, King could not address that issue while alive. Today, however, he would have addressed it. And his assassination might very have been the price paid for that position.

Gratefully,
TL Michael Auman, OFM Cap.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Thanks for your message today (and always).</p>
<p>As a gay man, I would only add to your reflection that if Martin Luther King were still alive, I believe he would be preaching the same message in regard to our society&#8217;s attitude&#8217;s towards my community. I would suggest that prejudice against gay and lesbian persons continues to be an acceptable position. </p>
<p>Given the times, King could not address that issue while alive. Today, however, he would have addressed it. And his assassination might very have been the price paid for that position.</p>
<p>Gratefully,<br />
TL Michael Auman, OFM Cap.
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